The Hot Seat

The Hot Seat 

a.k.a. The Love Seat, The Man Chair

Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.

Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. She turns away and backs up onto you, sitting between your legs. She can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with her feet. She can control the angle of entry by arching her back and pressing her buttocks into your groin. While doggy-style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts her in the driver's seat.

Now try this: She can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate her nipples.

Hot Tip — His

The best ways to help her get interested in sex when you can tell it's the farthest thing from her mind: Draw her a bubble bath, give her a massage, wrestle.

Cow Girl

The Cowgirl 

a.k.a. Woman On Top

Benefits: Puts her in control. Great for G-spot stimulation.

The woman-on-top position allows for a variety of interesting sights and sensations, and offers her the psychological advantage of taking charge of pace and depth of penetration. Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts. "Shallow will stimulate the front third of the vagina, which is the most sensitive," says sex therapist Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.

Now try this: Lie chest to chest, with her stretching her legs out on top of your legs. She should brace her feet on the tops of yours and push off to create a rocking motion that will rub her vulva and clitorial area against your pubic bone for greater pleasure.

Hot Tip — His

It will be easier for her to climax if you stimulate her manually and orally until she is extremely aroused. From the woman-on-top position, have her squat over your face where you can orally stimulate her.

One Up

One Up 

a.k.a. Over Your Shoulder, The Hamstring Stretch

Benefits: This position is ideal for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.

Kneel on the floor with her lying on the edge of the bed. Rasie one of her legs and ask her to support her leg by wrapping her hands around her hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, she’ll be able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot.

Now try this: Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get the rhythm right.

Hot Tip — Hers

Let him know the tongue pressure and technique you prefer by demonstrating with your mouth on his earlobe.

Hot Tip — His

During oral sex allow the knuckle of your finger to trail behind your tongue. The contrast between soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation.

The Waterfall

Waterfall 

a.k.a. Head Rush

Benefits: The blood will rush to your other head, too.

Move to the edge of the bed and lie back with your head and shoulders on the floor as she straddles you. The blood will rush to your head creating mind-blowing sensations upon climax.

45 Positions to help you Sex Life

Right now, off the top of your head, see if you can name every sex position you know. We'll wait. You probably listed the usual suspects—missionary, cowgirl, spooning, doggy. You can do better. Not just because it'll give her better orgasms, but for your own orgasms as well. 

We have a few suggestions. Well, more than a few—45, to be exact.

That number probably sounds intimidating. You have your favorite positions (and you may be surprised by What Your Favorite Sex Position Says About You.) And maybe you're not, well, equipped for every position (be sure to read up on the Best Sex Positions for Every Penis Size). We're not saying you have to try all 45. Not in the same night, anyway. (Unless the mood strikes you. In which case, God speed!) Just add these moves to your playbook, so you're ready when the time comes.

The Cat 

a.k.a. Coital Alignment Technique

Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation. In one study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56 percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment technique.

The CAT is just like the missionary except that your body is farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest, your chest is near her shoulders. Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with her clitoris.

Now try this: Ask her to straighten her legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while she pushes up.

Hot Tip — His

Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to, hopefully, provide enough stimulation for her to orgasm. Also try grinding your pelvis in a circular motion. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73 percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.